Trauma…

Abuse

Rape

Molestation

Divorce

Betrayal

Rejection

Abandonment

Domestic Violence

Death of a Loved One

The list goes on and on. These are all horrible things that can happen to us as we go through life. Traumatic events such as those above and others can cause intense pain in our hearts, minds and spirits!

We may ask ourselves the question, “Why did this happen to me?”  That is a dangerous question because it can lead to bitterness, anger, resentment, blaming God, or blaming ourselves. The pain from traumatic experiences can relentlessly torment us unless we receive healing and freedom from that pain and trauma. When deeply painful things happen to us, including the death of a loved one, betrayal, divorce, abuse, or any other traumatic event, we can be overwhelmed with so much emotional pain that it can lead to physical illness. Yes, the emotional and/or spiritual pain that we carry can, and often does, lead to short-term (acute) and long-term (chronic) physical illness.

A happy heart is good medicine and a joyful mind causes healing,
But a broken spirit dries up the bones.  Proverbs 17:22 (AMP)

 

Why do such seriously painful situations happen to us? We live in a messed-up world, not the world that God originally intended His children to inhabit. There is a kingdom of darkness in the spiritual realm that inspires people to do things that are hurtful, painful and downright unthinkable at times. Evil and wicked people abound in our world! The traumatic events that we experience are often the result of the actions of wicked people. Some of them may even be wolves in sheep’s clothing pretending to be followers of Jesus Christ, but not exhibiting any evidence of genuine relationships with the Lord. The following 3 verses are just a few in the Bible about evil and wickedness.

 

God is a just judge,
And God is angry with the wicked every day.  Psalm 7:11 (NKJV)

 

The wicked lies in wait for the righteous
And seeks to kill him.  Psalm 37:32 (AMP)

 

You who love the Lord, hate evil!
He preserves the souls of His saints;
He delivers them out of the hand of the wicked.  Psalm 97:10 (NKJV)

 

We need to understand that it was never God’s intention for us to suffer trauma. However, it is the reality of rampant sin in the world. Years ago, one couple in ministry told me that a lady to whom they ministered was a Satanic Ritual Abuse (SRA) survivor. The lady had told them that she believed it was her destiny to be the recipient of Satanic Ritual Abuse. She was convinced that, for some reason, God had appointed her to go through that horrific abuse. I do not believe that at all because that explanation completely contradicts God’s Word. He loves us! He wants the best for us. Being traumatized by Satanic Ritual Abuse, or any other event that is the product of the sin of wicked people, is not God’s perfect will for anyone.

 

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.  Jeremiah 29:11 (NKJV)

 

God has given us an amazing gift of our free wills. Without our free wills, we would all be like little robots, walking around only doing what we were programmed to do. Thank God that we have the ability to make choices, but that ability also leads to a lot of the pain and trauma that we experience, because evil people make ungodly decisions that cause emotional pain and trauma for others. Many, many people, including genuine Christians, have suffered trauma at the hands of close friends, family, and others claiming to be Christians. The enemy, Satan, knows that he can cause us the deepest and most intense pain through the free wills of the people we love. The Lord warns us in His Word to depart from doing evil, and the more we obey His Word, the less pain and trauma we will cause others!

 

Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the Lord and depart from evil.  Proverbs 3:7 (NKJV)

The answer is not to allow the pain from the trauma to destroy us, or our relationships with the Most High God. The answer is not to stuff the pain. The answer is not to medicate it with illegal drugs. The answer is not to drown it in alcohol. The answer is not to do anything else harmful to try to deaden the pain. However, there are times, especially for those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), that medication is necessary and helpful to treat severe symptoms that are the result of extreme, life-threatening trauma. Medication may also be necessary to treat physical illness that results from trauma. However, the overuse of any medication can lead to addiction, which is often the result of deep emotional pain.

We must do our best not to focus on why the traumatic situations happened in our lives. Focusing on how to be more than conquerors through God in Jesus Christ our Lord (Romans 8:37-39) is much better for our emotional, mental and spiritual well-being. The ultimate answer to the emotional and spiritual pain we suffer is to seek healing through Jesus Christ—the Healer. He came to set the captives free. He came to heal the brokenhearted (Luke 4:18). 

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me,
Because He has anointed Me
To preach the gospel to the poor;
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives
And recovery of sight to the blind,
To set at liberty those who are oppressed;”  Luke 4:18 (NKJV)

There is so much that we have yet to learn about how pain and trauma affect our brains, our spirits, our DNA, and everything about us. However, as long as we continue to strive to receive the healing we need and not just give in to the pain, there is hope. The hope is in the fact that Jesus Christ came to heal the brokenhearted! As I stated above, we all have free wills. That is how we are able to accept God’s gift of salvation through the birth, death and resurrection of His Son, Jesus Christ. We are all given the opportunity to sincerely ask Jesus to be our personal Lord and Savior and spend eternity in Heaven. When we do that, we can have real hope.

Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.  Romans 15:13 (NKJV)

If you are in such intense emotional pain that you are using illegal drugs or over using prescribed drugs to medicate it, drowning it in alcohol, or participating in some other addiction or behavior that helps you to numb the pain, you need to realize that the cause of the pain must be addressed. We have to admit that we are brokenhearted. We have to acknowledge that the pain is damaging our relationships with others, especially our relationships with God. We have to draw as close to Him as we can, seek His healing, and seek His restoration. We must reach out for help in getting free and healed from the emotional and spiritual pain. There is help available through Christian prayer ministers and others who use the Holy Bible as their basis for helping people receive needed inner healing.

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.  Psalm 34:18 (NASB)

Jesus will never cause you pain. He brings comfort. He brings healing. His healing is not superficial and it is not temporary. It is lasting and it is the only way to get out of the prison that the trauma has put you in. There is a light at the end of the very dark tunnel of emotional and spiritual pain. Jesus is that light!

The Lord has appeared of old to me, saying:
“Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love;
Therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you.  Jeremiah 31:3 (NKJV)

We can rejoice in that truth. God loves us with an everlasting love! He wants us to know that there is help available for the healing of our broken hearts through His Son, Jesus!

Kathy Shelton