Inner Healing — Healing from the Inside Out

 

There is a great need for inner healing in this world! So many people are miserable because they cannot bear the emotional and spiritual pain from trauma that they are carrying. That pain results in addiction, abuse, murder, abandonment, physical illness, suicide, and many other epidemics  in our society. Inner healing from emotional and spiritual pain that we have suffered is not optional if we desire to fulfill the Lord’s destiny for us.

Trauma can be experienced in many ways including molestation, rape, death of a loved one, divorce, accidents, and natural disasters. Abuse, including mental, verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, and spiritual abuse, produces traumatic effects on our hearts and spirits. Traumatic situations always leave our hearts and spirits broken. Without inner healing for the emotional and spiritual pain, we can become bitter, resentful, excessively angry, full of hatred, and physically ill.

Luke 6:45 says, “A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” (NKJV)

The good treasure in our hearts does produce good in our lives, but it does not prevent the evil treasure from producing pain and suffering for our family and friends. Those closest to us—the ones we love and who love us—end up being easy targets when our own pain and trauma is triggered. This dynamic alone causes more relationship issues, broken homes, and divorces than most people realize.

A large portion of the evil treasure of our hearts is formed as a result of painful and traumatic circumstances. We often suppress the emotional and spiritual pain without even trying as a defense mechanism that we develop to continue to function form day-to-day. However, the pain will not stay hidden forever, and it will eventually erupt like a volcano. That is when the abundance of the heart pours out of our mouths, or through our ungodly actions. Denying that emotional and spiritual pain exist within our hearts will never stop that from happening, and it will never cause the inner healing that we need to be accomplished.

Many people have hurt us because they were carrying emotional and spiritual pain and trauma for which they never received healing. It is often said that hurt people, hurt people. That is true, but no excuse for us to continue to hurt others because we have not pursued inner healing for ourselves.

In Psalm 51:10, David prayed, “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” (NKJV)

A clean heart represents a heart that has received healing for the things it contains that are not godly and glorifying to God. Our spirits cannot be steadfast as long as we are suffering the effects of pain and trauma. We must ask God to show us what is in our hearts and spirits that needs to be released so that we can truly obey Him in every area of our lives. That is the first step.

Bible-based inner healing that relies on the power of Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit is the most effective and long-lasting healing. We do not have to live our lives in a prison of pain and trauma that we carry in our hearts and spirits! Isaiah 61:1 says that Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted—not Buddha, Allah, Mohammed, or any pagan god. Jesus Christ, the Son of Almighty God, came to heal the brokenhearted and set the captives free. True freedom is possible if it is pursued in a godly way.

Asking for help to receive inner healing takes courage and a willingness to admit that there is emotional and spiritual pain and trauma that is contributing to your lack of peace. Talking to a Christian counselor or prayer minister about your need for inner healing may seem frightening, but it will be the most important step you can take to help yourself and those you love. The Lord has provided many Christian ministries that help with inner healing. However, they will not search you out. You must do some research and find the best one for the specific pain and trauma that you have experienced. Our website includes a HELPFUL RESOURCES page (CLICK HERE) on the top menu that includes suggestions for ministries that you may want to contact for help.

Inner healing for emotional and spiritual pain is a process like peeling an onion. I pray that you will allow yourself the time necessary and receive the Lord’s grace to continue one day at a time. Each step you take in the inner healing process will bring you that much closer to Almighty God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.

Kathy Shelton
 

The Holidays (updated)

Joy to the World…

What a blessing it is to get together with family and friends during Easter, Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, New Years, birthdays and other times of celebration.  However, these times can also be very emotionally painful for many people. As a result, the rate of suicide increases during the holidays. That tragedy can be prevented!

When emotional pain or trauma from the past is triggered during the holidays, it can be extremely difficult for those who are unknowingly carrying that pain.  They may not realize that their reaction to Aunt Suzie or Uncle Harry is really partially the result of past pain that has been buried and is now coming to the surface.

An example of emotional pain from the past being triggered after over six decades was related to me by one of my ministry recipients several years ago.  This woman, Betty (not her real name), had been married for over 50 years when she asked her husband to go to the store for her to buy a jar of pickles.  Betty told him the type and brand of pickles that she wanted, but when he returned home, he had a jar of generic pickles that was not even the type that she had requested.

Well, this woman, who was in her seventies, said that she went into a rage!  However, Betty also had some knowledge about inner emotional wounds and quickly realized that her reaction had very little to do with the pickles.  So, she asked the Lord what was going on with her, and He revealed the root of her emotional outburst.  When Betty was a child, her family was very poor and her mother only bought things that were the least expensive.  If her mother came home with anything that was not the cheapest item, this woman’s father went into a rage.  The pain and trauma that surfaced when Betty’s husband came home with the generic pickles had been stuffed for over 60 years!

The end of the story is that Betty received the healing and freedom that she needed from this past emotional pain and trauma through Jesus Christ.  Praise the Lord!  You can also receive the same healing and freedom if you will pursue it with a qualified, trained Christian minister. Healing the Brokenhearted Ministry is one type of inner healing ministry meant to help people receive freedom and healing from emotional, spiritual, and physical pain and trauma.

If you dread the holidays because emotional pain from the past is usually triggered, please know that you are not alone. This is very common. However, there is help. Jesus can release that past pain and trauma!

Please see the suggested resources on the HELPFUL RESOURCES page on this website (CLICK HERE). You can also contact me for more information by filling out the form on the CONTACT AFJM page (CLICK HERE).

God loves you very much and wants you to be set free from past pain and trauma! My prayer for you is that you will allow the Lord to direct your steps to receive the healing you need. May God bless you this holiday season!

Kathy Shelton

Short… but not sweet.

The Body of Christ is blessed…

but it is a mess!

Don’t take this the wrong way. I love our brothers and sisters-in-the-Lord. However, it is time for us to acknowledge the pain and trauma that the Body of Christ, the Church in general, is carrying.

In the same way that people who are not Christians do, Christians have experienced and stuffed the pain from past and current abuse and trauma. The divorce rate in the Church is equal to, or higher than, that of unbelievers. Addiction to alcohol, drugs, legal and illegal, pornography, and other forms of escape are the product of the emotional, spiritual, and sometimes the resulting physical pain a person is trying to numb. All of the types of pain and trauma caused by situations we experience during our lives, including abuse, death of a loved one, divorce, broken relationships, accidents, natural disasters, rejection, betrayal, molestation and rape, can lead to a broken heart. Many, many Christians have broken hearts!

Tragically, the end result of all the pain and trauma can be suicide, or at least attempted suicide. When a Christian takes his or her own life, people may think they were not really a believer, but that is ridiculous. Christians are just as susceptible to the overwhelming pain that results from trauma in their lives.

I have experienced many traumatic situations in my life, and I attempted suicide a couple of times in the early 1980’s. As a result of Healing the Brokenhearted prayer ministry that I received, I learned that pain and trauma that I had suppressed was at the root of those attempts. During prayer, Jesus Christ released that emotional pain and trauma! I am now free of the pain that resulted in those suicide attempts. Freedom from past pain and trauma through Jesus Christ is freedom that is lasting. Praise the Lord! 

Over the years, my husband and I have prayed with hundreds of men and women who had stuffed pain for years and often decades! They were a mess, emotionally, spiritually, and sometimes physically. They were all part of the Body of Christ and blessed, but they were a mess.

If you need help and are in Colorado or New Mexico, contact me (CLICK HERE) and I can give you information for a prayer minister who was trained by me or my husband to do the Healing the Brokenhearted Ministry. There is also a HELPFUL RESOURCES page on this website (CLICK HERE). In addition, you can send us a prayer request using our PRAYER REQUEST form (CLICK HERE).

The bottom line—please seek help! Jesus does not want you to go through your life carrying that pain and trauma. He loves you very much!

Kathy Shelton

The Tragedy of Suicide

Attempting suicide or actually committing suicide, taking one’s own life, is usually the result of unbearable emotional, mental, or physical pain. A broken heart is often the starting point for suicidal thoughts. The person who attempts or commits suicide has lost hope that the pain will stop any other way. The enemy of our souls, the devil, adds to that hopelessness by agreeing with the person that suicide is the answer. A demonic spirit of suicide is assigned and attached to the pain, and the combination can be deadly.

Paul wrote about “despairing even of life” in the Bible in 2 Corinthians 1:8. As reported in 2 Corinthians 11:23-28, Paul had gone through unimaginable trials, including beatings with rods, whippings with thirty-nine lashes five times, perils everywhere he went, surviving a ship wreck, sleeplessness, hunger and thirst,  being stoned, and being thrown into prison. He endured those things without losing hope, yet something caused him to lose hope at one point. However, he did not commit suicide, but trusted in God to deliver him. The prayers of others brought him through his season of hopelessness.
 

The incidence of suicide is at an epidemic level in the U.S. It is not limited to any age, gender, or ethnic group, although it is higher in some areas. Veterans alone have been taking their own lives at the rate of 22 per day. More people die, at least 100 per day, as a result of suicide than car accidents in this country. That is over 36,500 deaths due to suicide in the U.S. per year! In addition, approximately 600,000 Americans attempt suicide every year and end up in emergency rooms.

According to the New Mexico Suicide Prevention website, New Mexico is 3rd in the nation for suicides! Over one per day occurs in New Mexico, approximately 420 per year. That is more than deaths resulting from breast cancer or people driving under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

Valencia County, New Mexico, where we live, has a very high rate of suicide. It also has the highest rate of drug and alcohol abuse, unwed pregnancy, and domestic violence in New Mexico according to a study done by the University of New Mexico, Valencia Campus. All of those things can contribute to a high rate of suicide.

Suicide is a tragedy that can often be prevented. How? First and foremost, the person needs to ask Jesus Christ to come into their life and be their Lord and Savior. That does not automatically mean that all the pain will instantly disappear, although that can happen. In fact, people who are followers of Jesus Christ are not exempt from the devastation of addictions or the finality of the act of suicide, but they have the opportunity to receive healing and freedom from the pain. Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Healing and freedom are possible through Jesus Christ!
 
Before the pain gets to the point where someone gives up and attempts to take his or her own life, they must seek help from a qualified Christian counselor or minister. Not all Christian counselors or ministers have the understanding of the enormous spiritual dynamics involved in hopelessness that lead to suicide.
 
Since we are prayer ministers, not counselors or mental health professionals, we always recommend that anyone with severe emotional symptoms seek out the help of medical doctors or licensed counselors.
 
We do not suggest that we know and understand all of the implications encompassing mental illness, especially the effects of mind-altering medications such as antidepressants and tranquilizers. However, we have observed that emotional pain is often accompanied by spiritual considerations that need to be addressed in the spiritual realm through prayer.
 
The Healing the Brokenhearted Ministry may help someone who has experienced suicidal thoughts, depending on the individual’s situation. Releasing past pain and trauma often results in the removal of suicidal tendencies. Praise the Lord!

 

Jesus came “to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning,
the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.” (Isaiah 61:3).

 

Jesus wants us to live in His joy!