Inner Healing — Healing from the Inside Out

 

There is a great need for inner healing in this world! So many people are miserable because they cannot bear the emotional and spiritual pain from trauma that they are carrying. That pain results in addiction, abuse, murder, abandonment, physical illness, suicide, and many other epidemics  in our society. Inner healing from emotional and spiritual pain that we have suffered is not optional if we desire to fulfill the Lord’s destiny for us.

Trauma can be experienced in many ways including molestation, rape, death of a loved one, divorce, accidents, and natural disasters. Abuse, including mental, verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, and spiritual abuse, produces traumatic effects on our hearts and spirits. Traumatic situations always leave our hearts and spirits broken. Without inner healing for the emotional and spiritual pain, we can become bitter, resentful, excessively angry, full of hatred, and physically ill.

Luke 6:45 says, “A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” (NKJV)

The good treasure in our hearts does produce good in our lives, but it does not prevent the evil treasure from producing pain and suffering for our family and friends. Those closest to us—the ones we love and who love us—end up being easy targets when our own pain and trauma is triggered. This dynamic alone causes more relationship issues, broken homes, and divorces than most people realize.

A large portion of the evil treasure of our hearts is formed as a result of painful and traumatic circumstances. We often suppress the emotional and spiritual pain without even trying as a defense mechanism that we develop to continue to function form day-to-day. However, the pain will not stay hidden forever, and it will eventually erupt like a volcano. That is when the abundance of the heart pours out of our mouths, or through our ungodly actions. Denying that emotional and spiritual pain exist within our hearts will never stop that from happening, and it will never cause the inner healing that we need to be accomplished.

Many people have hurt us because they were carrying emotional and spiritual pain and trauma for which they never received healing. It is often said that hurt people, hurt people. That is true, but no excuse for us to continue to hurt others because we have not pursued inner healing for ourselves.

In Psalm 51:10, David prayed, “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” (NKJV)

A clean heart represents a heart that has received healing for the things it contains that are not godly and glorifying to God. Our spirits cannot be steadfast as long as we are suffering the effects of pain and trauma. We must ask God to show us what is in our hearts and spirits that needs to be released so that we can truly obey Him in every area of our lives. That is the first step.

Bible-based inner healing that relies on the power of Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit is the most effective and long-lasting healing. We do not have to live our lives in a prison of pain and trauma that we carry in our hearts and spirits! Isaiah 61:1 says that Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted—not Buddha, Allah, Mohammed, or any pagan god. Jesus Christ, the Son of Almighty God, came to heal the brokenhearted and set the captives free. True freedom is possible if it is pursued in a godly way.

Asking for help to receive inner healing takes courage and a willingness to admit that there is emotional and spiritual pain and trauma that is contributing to your lack of peace. Talking to a Christian counselor or prayer minister about your need for inner healing may seem frightening, but it will be the most important step you can take to help yourself and those you love. The Lord has provided many Christian ministries that help with inner healing. However, they will not search you out. You must do some research and find the best one for the specific pain and trauma that you have experienced. Our website includes a HELPFUL RESOURCES page (CLICK HERE) on the top menu that includes suggestions for ministries that you may want to contact for help.

Inner healing for emotional and spiritual pain is a process like peeling an onion. I pray that you will allow yourself the time necessary and receive the Lord’s grace to continue one day at a time. Each step you take in the inner healing process will bring you that much closer to Almighty God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.

Kathy Shelton
 

What did THEY just say?

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words.

Proverbs 18:21 (Amplified Bible)

Please read the post titled, “What did you just say,” before reading this one (CLICK HERE). That article explains the basics of what I will be going into more detail about below.

Quite often, doctors and medical professionals unknowingly say things to their patients that are word curses. They do not realize what they are doing. They do it because that is what they’ve been taught. Give the patient a diagnosis. Give the patient a prognosis. A prognosis is simply a prediction of future events based on the diagnosis. Only God knows the future! However, many of those diagnoses and prognoses are taken to heart by patients, and their conditions can worsen as a result of the word curses spoken over them.

Several people I knew, who were diagnosed with cancer, are examples of this principle. They were told by the doctors and medical professionals that they only had a short time to live. Within weeks, they were dead. They lost all hope as a result of the words spoken to them. Their hearts and spirits were broken.

However, one lady was diagnosed with brain cancer and told she only had a few months to live. She was a fighter and did not accept that prognosis. She did not accept the word curse spoken over her life. That happened decades ago. She is still alive and following Jesus Christ!

Doctors have decided that certain diseases and illnesses are incurable. They have told patients that. I was one of them. I was diagnosed in 1990 with a condition called biliary dyskinesia. The symptoms are extreme abdominal pain similar to a gallbladder attack where a gallstone is stuck in the bile duct. However, my gallbladder had been removed years before these attacks began. For over a year after the diagnosis, the doctors did everything they could, including several experimental procedures, but the attacks increased and the pain was excruciating. Nothing helped. Eventually, I was told by one doctor that there was no cure and I would have to live with the condition for the rest of my life, taking very strong narcotic medication for the pain.

Most of the time, medication is just masking the symptoms. It is not curing the problem or disease. Jesus cures disease. Our Heavenly Father is the Great Physician. He is more than able to cure any disease. Since I was only thirty-seven years old, the thought of living like that for the rest of my life was not something I was willing to accept. That prognosis did not take into account the amazing, miracle-working power of our Most High God who, soon after, supernaturally healed me of that disease through prayer. Praise God!

Another group of professionals that often speak word curses over their patients are mental health professionals. They diagnose people as bipolar, schizophrenic, borderline personality, etc. As they speak those diagnoses over the patients, they are breaking their hearts even more than when they came to see them for help. They are putting labels on the patients that make it even harder for them to get well, to be healed, and to be set free. Our Most High God is much bigger than that. He can heal a person regardless of what diagnosis and prognosis they have been given.

In Mark 5:1-20, the Bible gives the testimony of the man who was bound with chains because no one could tame him. He was cutting himself. He was literally out of his mind. Today, he would certainly be given a diagnosis by mental health doctors. However, Jesus restored the man to his right mind by casting out unclean spirits. Jesus did not put a label on the man. He did not prescribe drugs for him to take. He compassionately set him free from what was tormenting his mind.  There are many people these days who have been diagnosed as mentally ill—who are suffering from broken heart issues and oppression. If they could receive the love and healing of Jesus Christ, they may very well not need the mind-altering medications that they have been prescribed.

Several ladies to whom I ministered no longer required the medication they had been prescribed after they received the inner healing they needed for past emotional pain and trauma. One of those ladies had been given an antidepressant drug several months before she came for prayer with me. After several sessions of Jesus ministering to her broken heart, she decided on her own to tell her doctor that she did not think she needed the medication any longer. He then helped her get weaned off the medication. (I never tell anyone to stop taking medication, but to always talk to their doctor about medical decisions!) After that lady received inner healing prayer and had completely discontinued the antidepressant, she still experienced painful and traumatic life circumstances, but she did not feel the need for medication. She said that she was able to function much better overall.  

People working in the criminal justice system are another example of professionals speaking word curses over individuals. In the prisons, people with a history of criminal activity may be suffering from mental illness and severely broken hearts, but they may be told that they will always be criminals and never be able to stay out of prison. They may even hear that from their own family members. “You are no good.” “You are a bad apple.” Those are powerful word curses. They can make the difference between life and death.

We should give God much more credit than we do! We need to give the enemy, the devil, much less credit than we do. We need to stop being in agreement with the devil and the kingdom of darkness by speaking word curses over people.

The bottom line is this. Do not accept things that are spoken over you by anyone as always being truth and the end of the discussion!   Whether it is a doctor or mental health professional giving you a diagnosis or a prognosis, or a teacher, family member, or others speaking words over you, be careful what you embrace as truth. Embrace the Bible. Embrace what the Word of God says about you! Embrace the fact that God loves you more than you can imagine and that He wants the best for you. He said in Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope” (NKJV). The prognoses that I described above take away hope. They do not give hope. The devil wants to take away your hope. Don’t let him! Look to our Most High God and His Son, Jesus, for your hope.

“… Christ in you, the hope of glory.” Colossians 1:27 (NKJV)

 

Kathy Shelton

What did you just say?

Our words carry so much weight, especially in the spiritual realm. The Bible says that death and life are in the power of the tongue. As always, the Bible is absolutely true.

Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words.” (Amplified Bible) (portion underlined for emphasis)

We need to be very careful about the words that we allow to come out of our mouths. Word curses are very real and they have significant power. People who are serving the kingdom of darkness know this very well. They speak word curses, curses, spells, and incantations, and they see the results of the words that come out of their mouths on a regular basis.

Christians are not exempt from speaking word curses. They do it all the time. I know numerous followers of Jesus, myself included, who have unintentionally spoken word curses over others. We can also bring curses upon ourselves based on things that we have said about ourselves! Once you become aware of this principle, then you are responsible for what you do and what words you speak in the future.

There is a difference between speaking a word curse and speaking the truth—saying something that is factual. An example of a factual statement would be saying, “My father just died.” That is not a word curse. That is a fact. “I just filed bankruptcy,” is also not a word curse. That is a fact. However, if someone says, “I am telling you right now, you are going to file bankruptcy within the next five years because… ,” that is a word curse. They are negating the power of God in someone’s life when they say those words. I know people who have told others, “You are going to end up divorced in the next ten years!” That is another example of a word curse. That does not take the Lord’s redemptive power into account and acknowledge that all things are possible with God. We must be very careful what we allow to come out of our mouths!

Many of the women and men to whom I have ministered in personal inner healing sessions or group workshops and seminars have been told as children that they were not good enough. They were told that they were stupid—that they were ugly, too this, or too that. Those were word curses that effected them throughout their lives in many, many ways. It is a form of brainwashing that is tremendously hurtful to the person receiving those word curses.

Another example of the power of word curses in someone’s life is when a person is told that they are not smart enough to do whatever they think they would like to do. If they are told that enough by people who have significant authority and influence in their life, they will many times just give up pursuing the dream they once had. Word curses can change the course of a person’s life!

My father told me before I married my ex-husband that my fiancé, Sam, not his real name, was too good for me. That was a horrible word curse. It impacted me greatly after we were married. Sam began hitting me and abusing me in other ways one week into our marriage. More than once while the abuse was happening, I remembered what my father had said. How could this man who was supposedly “too good for me” be abusing me? I tried to be a better wife, thinking that if I only did better, my husband would treat me well and not abuse me any longer. My father’s words did not cause my ex-husband to abuse me, but they did affect how I thought about that abuse and my decision to stay with him in spite of that abuse.

Word curses can also be spoken in anger to us or by us to others. Words said in anger can be very damaging. The effects of those words are long-lasting and hurtful to hearts and spirits.

One woman was told by several family members that if she divorced her husband, she would go to hell. All the people involved were professing Christians. Yet, they told this woman who was being abused physically, emotionally, mentally, verbally, and sexually that if she divorced her husband she would go to hell. Their words could have kept her in that horrific marriage. She had two small children who were also being impacted by the ungodly actions of their father. That woman did eventually divorce her husband. I don’t believe for one second that she is on her way to hell because she left her husband and his abuse. That does not line up with Scripture and the love of God for us!

Christians need to diligently watch their words! So many have used Scripture from the Bible, taken out of context, to speak word curses over others. That does not honor our Most High God, our loving heavenly Father. He says that He wants the best for us—that He has a future and a hope for us. He had a future and a hope for that young woman and her two children that did not include continuing to be subjected to that horrible abuse.

Another woman to whom I ministered told me of being involved with a practicing witch in her past before she became a Christian. She was told many ungodly things by the witch. I believe she was told that something terrible would happen if she discontinued her involvement with that witch. During the time when the witch was mentoring her, the woman began having visions of herself driving off a secluded road. She had those visions repeatedly. One day after discontinuing that relationship, the woman found herself driving on that road. She recognized the road from her visions. She ended up driving off the  side of the road and going down a cliff! Miraculously, she survived that “accident.” She believed that accident was the result of words spoken over her by the witch.

Word curses from any source, including curses and all of the evil words that people who are serving the devil and the kingdom of darkness speak, can have a huge impact on our lives. However, we can break word curses because of the power of the blood of Jesus Christ! What Jesus Christ did on the cross was more powerful than any word curse, than any spell, than any curse that can possibly be spoken over us by Christians or non-Christians. Jesus’ blood provided the means for us to be set free from those curses. Jesus’ resurrection provided the power to break word curses. We have to believe it is possible and we have to pursue freedom. We also have to be walking with the Lord in a way that is free of known sin in our life. We cannot be straddling the fence. We cannot have one foot in the kingdom of God and one foot in the kingdom of darkness and expect to have the authority we need to break word curses that have been spoken over us.

We must be fully and totally sold out to the Most High God, Yahweh, the Creator of heaven and earth. Then we can apply the blood of His Son, Jesus Christ, over us to cleanse ourselves from those curses. The most important part of that process is that we have fully given our hearts, minds, and spirits to our Most High God. We must have submitted ourselves to the Lord Jesus Christ and asked Him to be our personal Lord and Savior, not just our Savior, but our Lord and Savior. Repentance is crucial. Turning from ungodly habits and known sin is vital.

Following the Lord, following His leading, and obeying Him are essential for freedom. We cannot expect to have victory over the word curses that have been spoken to us, by us, or over us if we are not walking with the Lord to the best of our ability. It’s not a game. Satan is very serious about wanting to destroy as many people as he can on this planet. He is doing a really good job. Yes, the devil is very disappointed when people become Christians. He is very unhappy about that. However, the devil doesn’t stop when someone says, “I am a Christian. Jesus is my Lord and Savior.” Satan does not stop attacking us until the day we die. We have to stop giving him the pathway to attack us by our own words, or by words spoken over us by others. We have to break those word curses in Jesus’ name once we have surrendered our lives to the Lord Jesus Christ.

If you need help doing this, or if you feel like you are just drowning from word curses from others, or any other form of curses from the kingdom of darkness, there is help available. Check out our HELPFUL RESOURCES page or contact me for more information. Word curses can play a part in causing our hearts to be broken. God does not want us to continue living with broken hearts! He wants the work that His Son did on the cross when Jesus said, “It is finished,” to be the source of victory in our lives. Take steps towards your victory by pursuing the freedom that you need from word curses. Begin the habit of speaking words of blessing over yourself and others. Be blessed today as you surrender your life to the One who loves you more than you can imagine—Jesus Christ.

Kathy Shelton

The Trauma and Heartbreak of Spiritual Abuse

The seriousness of spiritual abuse and its effects

cannot be overstated!

Some people do not think of spiritual abuse as being traumatic and heart-breaking, especially when a person is in the midst of that abuse. The deception accompanying spiritual abuse often keeps the victim in a state of confusion and disbelief. They may ask themselves, “How can people who are supposed to be helping me grow in the things of God be abusing me?” Unfortunately, spiritual abuse happens more often than one might imagine. The results are ugly and very devastating.

I have ministered to many women who have been spiritually abused since I began ministering to the brokenhearted. Yes, there are the obvious ritual abuse and Satanic Ritual Abuse (SRA) survivors who suffered extreme levels of spiritual abuse. There are also those who have come out of mainstream churches, Christian organizations, and non-Christian organizations where there was intense spiritual abuse that caused them substantial amounts of pain and trauma.

Anytime a person places themselves in authority over another person in the place of the authority position of the Lord Jesus Christ that is a recipe for spiritual abuse! Anytime someone is told that the person in authority knows better because they “have a better connection to the Lord,” or “to God,” that is a wide open door to spiritual abuse.

One of the ladies to whom I ministered in the past told me about an abusive incident, which was one of many, that she experienced with her husband. She had disagreed with him about something that a man in ministry was teaching. She said that her husband grabbed her arm, twisted it behind her back, and repeatedly yelled at her that she needed to repent for disagreeing with the minister. He told her that she needed to ask God to forgive her for having the “horrible” thought that the man in ministry could possibly be wrong. The lady was in tears as she shared the details of these events with me. That was physical, emotional, verbal, and mental abuse as well as spiritual abuse! This is just one example of spiritual abuse being accompanied by other forms of abuse. It is often the case that emotional, verbal, mental, physical and/or sexual abuse happen together with spiritual abuse. 

The damage that is done to a person’s heart, mind and spirit, to their whole being, as the result of spiritual abuse can be overwhelming. It can be devastating. It can lead to that person not being able to function normally in any way. Survivors of spiritual abuse often struggle with anger. They experience different levels of anger as a result of that abuse. Most of the time, it is righteous anger and not sin.  The pain and trauma of spiritual abuse can also lead to suicide if the victim becomes hopeless about the possibility of relief from that pain.

People who are spiritually abusive often twist Scripture. They take Bible verses out of context. They manipulate people in ways that are absolutely inspired by the kingdom of darkness. Perpetrators of spiritual abuse also use isolation, secrecy, and fear to control their victims. They count on the victims’ silence about their abuse. All of these things make it very difficult for a victim to break free and receive the healing they desperately need for the pain and trauma.

However, the abusers are sometimes deceived themselves into thinking that what they are doing is right. A lot of the perpetrators of spiritual abuse are deceived, and the nature of deception is that the person does not realize that they are deceived. That is no excuse and does not forgive their behavior, nor does it release them from accountability. They will answer to God for their actions just as we all will answer to Him for our actions. On the other hand, many perpetrators of spiritual abuse know exactly what they are doing!

The perpetrators of spiritual abuse do not usually stop because they are convicted by the Holy Spirit, or something inside of them says that they have gone over the line. Normally, someone who is spiritually abusive only stops if they are caught, if they are exposed, or if they fear that they are in danger of suffering consequences for their behavior that are greater than the fulfillment that they receive from being abusive.

Several of the women to whom I ministered were survivors of Satanic Ritual Abuse (SRA). One of those ladies told me the reason that the abuse finally stopped for her. The high priest was in the process of murdering her in a horrific way when he suddenly, and unexplainably in the natural realm, died. His neck snapped. The lady told me that she believed it was angels that came to her assistance at that time when the perpetrator was going to end her life. I do not believe that the high priest would have stopped otherwise. The Lord came to her rescue.

People will ask, “Why does God allow people to be spiritually abused? Why doesn’t He stop all of it?” It is the same reason that He does not stop sin in general in this world. He has given us all a free will. We need to stop blaming God for all these horrific things that happen and put the blame where it belongs—on the human beings who make the choice to be abusive and on the kingdom of darkness that inspires those evil choices. Spiritual abuse is one of Satan’s many tools to destroy human hearts, minds and spirits.

When people invite Jesus Christ to be their Lord and Savior, they often have experienced significant pain and trauma in their lives and they are brokenhearted. Many times that is what draws them to the Lord Jesus Christ, because He is so loving and forgiving, and it is an opportunity to be accepted in spite of all of their past sin, pain, and trauma. However, because of that, they are also easy targets for those who are spiritually abusive. Christians, especially new Christians, are normally too trusting.

Jesus Christ is never spiritually abusive. He never tries to force anyone to do anything against their will. Jesus understands the frailty of human beings. He understands the sin nature of human beings and how it can interfere with our relationship with God. He did not accept or condone sin, but He forgave and told people to “go and sin no more.” That is God’s will for us—that we would be forgiven and that we would not repeat the sin in the future. That is called repentance. Abusers rarely repent, although they may call themselves Christians. They are not truly following Jesus Christ.

Back to the survivors of spiritual abuse and people currently going through spiritual abuse… If that describes you, I would highly recommend that you seek help from a trained, qualified Christian prayer minister or counselor who can give you the assistance you need to obtain freedom from the pain and heartbreak of spiritual abuse. Look for someone who can help you receive the healing you need from the effects of that abuse. God loves you and He wants you to be whole. He wants you to be free. He wants you to be healed. He has a destiny for your life and it is not for you to experience or suffer through spiritual abuse and its effects any longer. Please make the decision today to step out and pursue your healing and freedom. It is worth it. YOU ARE WORTH IT.

There are suggested resources on the HELPFUL RESOURCES page on this website (CLICK HERE). You can also contact me for more information by filling out the form on the CONTACT AFJM page (CLICK HERE).

May God bless you! My prayer for you is that you will have the strength to stand up and make today the first day of the rest of your life—free from spiritual abuse.

Kathy Shelton

 

Be angry and do not sin…

 

Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Psalm 4:4 (New King James Version)

You can be angry, but do not sin! Think about this as you lie in bed, and calm down. Psalm 4:4 (Complete Jewish Bible)

Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, Ephesians 4:26 (New King James Version)

Be angry, but don’t sin— don’t let the sun go down before you have dealt with the cause of your anger; Ephesians 4:26 (Complete Jewish Bible)

Okay. So the Bible tells us that we can be angry, but not to let it escalate into sin. That is what it says! It does not say do not be angry, period, as so many people have taught or preached. I have heard many testimonies from people who were told to repent of their anger that had resulted from an emotionally painful or traumatic situation. That is ridiculous!

God created us with emotions. One of those emotions is anger. There are several types of anger that people experience. Anger can be righteous anger, meaning that it is justified and godly, resulting from something unjust and hurtful that happened to us. God’s anger is reported in many places in the Bible, and it resulted from the sin and disobedience of human beings. However, God’s anger is never sin. He is holy and righteous.

Most of us in the United States felt righteous anger after 9/11. That is not sin. That is a result of a horrific act that was perpetrated against our country and thousands of innocent people. As I have ministered to survivors of Satanic Ritual Abuse, I have seen incredible levels of righteous anger attached to the emotional, spiritual, and physical pain and trauma that they had been carrying for decades. To tell them to repent for their anger would be further abuse! The same is true for survivors of sexual abuse and molestation. See the post, It is not who you are!, dated May 2, 2015, in which I described a woman who had over-the-top levels of anger that were surfacing as a result of past sexual abuse. We should never tell others to repent for righteous anger!

Of course there are times when our anger is sin. That occurs when we allow our emotions to spiral out of control past the point of righteous anger. That is sin. In that case, when we step, or leap, over that line, we do need to ask God and anyone at whom we released the anger to forgive us.

There can also be demonic spirits of anger that are attached to our own sinful anger, or to the pain and trauma that we have stuffed. During ministry sessions with wounded individuals, I have observed that righteous anger, or demonic spirits of anger, can be, and often are, attached to pain and trauma that has been suppressed in someone’s heart or spirit. No amount of repenting will free a person from that anger. Only after the pain and trauma are released will the anger be released as well. Demonic spirits must usually be dealt with to rid a person of them once that person has asked for forgiveness for the sin, or received healing from pain and trauma. Once that happens, the demonic spirits will leave. However, I have also observed a great amount of spontaneous deliverance during ministry sessions when people are healed and the pain and trauma are released. Praise the Lord!

One of the reasons, I believe, that typical deliverance methods used by many in the Church are only temporarily helpful is because the demonic spirits returned and reattached to the pain and trauma to which they were originally attached unless it too has been healed and released.

Having experienced emotionally, physically, or spiritually painful and traumatic events should not be an excuse to continue acting out in anger! Repeated episodes of unexplained anger should be a signal to you that you need to get help. Just saying, “I am this way because of what I have gone through in my life,” is a cop-out. Yes, the pain and trauma from the things that you experienced may very well be the root of the anger that keeps you in bondage. However, it does not need to continue! There is help available for you to receive healing and freedom. If you need assistance in finding help, please use the Contact AFJM form on this website.

God does not want you to remain a prisoner of the pain and trauma from your past! He has provided help through His Son, Jesus Christ, but you must pursue healing and freedom.

Kathy Shelton